all alone …

“it’s only a matter of time, before we’re all alone” ~ hundred suns

it’s inevitable that at some point in our lives, we’re faced with being alone. whether it be a breakup, a divorce, or a death, we get to face ourselves head on. scary to think about, isn’t it? well, i guess that would depend on how you look at it. we can use that space to frantically look for someone or something to fill us with false feelings of hope, validation and aspirations, or we can use that space to work on ourselves and build a life that only we can dream of. so this weekend i challenge you to do something by yourself and for yourself and stop waiting for mr/ms right to do it. if you want to see a sunrise, get up early and go see it. if you want to hike part of the appalachian trail, go hike it. if you want to hop in the car and seek out a new place, go seek it. remember, at some point we’re all faced with being alone, so there’s no better time than now. some days i still struggle with the thought of being alone, but if there is one thing it has taught me, i now know what i want, and most importantly, what i don’t want in life and in a relationship …

5 thoughts on “all alone …

  1. I think the issue is more one of people ignoring, willfully or ignorantly self-consumed, the ones who are part of their lives – family, friends, co-workers, etc. – and then complain about being “all alone” when their relationships break down, when, as a matter of fact, there are plenty of people who they know, who would spend time with them.

    It quite annoys me, to be frank, as I have absolutely nobody in my life; not any family, friends, partners or the likes, not in the real world and neither online, yet not once will I even bother mentioning it, unless the conversation steers in that direction or I’m asked.

    People need to stop complaining and appreciate the lot they have been given!
    I highly doubt antone in any of the developing countries would complain as much as westerners do..

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    1. i often scratch my head when i read what people write about being down and having no one, yet there is usually someone within arms reach. are they the ones pushing away, or are we the ones too blind to see those that seek? probably a little of both. i’m always told how amazing it is i go off and do things on my own, like it takes some kind of rocket scientry to figure out we really have the power to do whatever we want, whenever we want. whats the point of sitting around and waiting though, while time slowly ticks away. having traveled through parts of central america, i can tell you returning back stateside after seeing how some of those people live, you grow a better appreciaton for life in general. as always, thanks for the thoughtful response. ryan

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      1. People are spoiled, single-minded and bitter (myself included). If they can’t have who or what they want, they sulk and pout like the teenagers they once were and never grew out of.
        The further west you go on the map, the worse it gets, if you catch my drift…

        Travelling certainly can be a revelation, yet it’s not comparable to actually live in different countries. As tourist you don’t get to see what people have to put up with every day, but only skim the surface.
        At least from my experience.

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      2. sometimes i get the feeling im in high school all over again and i’m 38. just the mentality of people. i just read an article rescently on how being an adult is pretty much navigiating your high shool years, just a bit older.

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      3. LOL, that’s quite funny, considering I never went to highschool, but then again, maybe that explains why I have a hard time finding people I can tolerate talking to and only few of those I enjoy spending time with and actively seek them out.
        I’ve met so many people past their 20’s, some well into their middle age, who behave and show attitudes worse than any teenager. That said, I’ve met 13 year olds who I could have a grown up conversation with about life, politics and the likes.
        I suppose at the end of the day, it all boils down to people’s life experience. if someone spends all their life in their little run down town, never even just attempts to look beyond their own limited horizon, then they will likely not have a mindset that would qualify as ‘mature’.

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